Okay, due to a recent backlash of the female population (not just on here, believe me), i have decided to change my tact.

You are all quite right, you don't all hold the cards. And yes, i can imagine some like to be hunted. But some love to be hunters.

In this day and age of pubs and bars and clubs, how are we to know who is single and who is not?

This is my main dilemmma. And it's not just me, obviously. There's a whole host of people with the same problem. Meeting someone can be tough when you can't even get the courage up to say "Are you single?" For the plain and simple reason you're scared they're going to say "No" and you'll make a fool of yourself. Or they'll make a fool out of you. This is the fear.

In actual fact, most women and men aren't like that. They, in all fairness, will probably answer either yes or no based on truth or whether they like you or not.

I know i shot myself in the foot for maybe trying too hard and saying that the girls hold all the cards. I'm just saying it's hard.

Even if you do get a look, a quick glance, a smile and generally things seem good from far away. You could walk up, attempt to start a conversation and her boyfriend walks over with a drink from the bar. So although i was getting the signals from afar, it was more like close and present danger.

Put it this way, this situation did actually happen. I introduced myself to him as her long standing friend and then bid them a good night and moved away. Eyebrows raised and eyes saying "Thank god i got away with that one."

So, conclusion. You really have no idea about anyone or if they like you unless you grow some balls, and just frickin' ask! Hopefully this should sink in.

If not, i'll write it down on a piece of paper and eat it.